By Royane Real

Author of    “Your Guide to Finding Friends, Making Friends and Keeping Friends”

Those of us who have good, close friendships should always remember how lucky we are.  We should never take our close friendships for granted.

It is all too easy to let a friendship lapse because of neglect or carelessness.  Even worse,  close friends can sometimes be driven apart because of a cruel remark said in a moment of temporary anger.  The resulting loss of a friend can last a lifetime. Sometimes friendships fail because the relationship hits a patch where every interaction between the two people becomes difficult and strained, and the people involved don’t know how to fix it.

If you are lucky enough to have a good friendship, what are you going to do to keep that friendship new and exciting?  What will you do to be sure that bad elements don’t enter your friendship to destroy it?

You can’t do anything to force your friend to work on the relationship, but you can do your own part to keep your friendship healthy.

Here are some tips for you to do this:

Never assume that someone who is your long term friend must help you every time you ask for a favor.  Ask respectfully, but realize that they have every right to turn you down on some occasions.  If your friend sometimes says “No” to you, don’t use this as a reason to become angry and bitter towards them.

Don’t let resentments fester.  You may believe that your friendship can never survive if you start revealing that sometimes you feel annoyed or resentful.  However, if you don’t occasionally discuss your disagreements, the relationship may end up exploding into a million pieces over some trivial event.

Be respectful of your friend as a separate individual at all times.  Don’t assume they must agree with you about everything.  Don’t reveal secrets about your friend that were told to you in confidence.

For a friendship to endure, there must be an ongoing balance between the two individuals. 

A friendship won’t work if one person is always the helper, and the other person is always the helpee. If such a situation exists, there is a deep imbalance in the roles between the two individuals.  If you don’t feel that your friend will be there to help you as often as you are there to help him, eventually that relationship will probably fail.

( The introductory comments which appear above are by Royane Real )

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