By  Brian Fong

Introductory comments by Royane Real

Author of  “Your Guide to Finding Friends, Making Friends and Keeping Friends”

Here’s a shocker for you to think about:  Not everybody is a good friend!

Sometimes the bad person in a friendship is the other guy.  The person we thought was our friend turned out to be someone who let us down. 

Sometimes the bad person in the relationship is us, and we don’t even know it!

We let other people down in big ways and in small ways.  Sometimes we are inconsiderate and selfish in our relationships.

Part of the reason that this happens is because nobody is perfect all the time.  The entire time that we are on this earth we are trying to learn to be more successful in our relationships with other people.

When we are young or immature, we sometimes select our friends for bad reasons.  We may want to hang out with someone because they have social status and they look cool.  If we are self centered, we may want rich and powerful friends because we think they will make us look more impressive to others.

We may want the friendship of certain people because they can help us get ahead in our business ventures.

We may totally forget about the emotional needs of the other people in our friendships because we are so selfi centered that we are only thinking about ourselves.

Sometimes the opposite happens in friendships.  We may have so little self esteem that we become victims of so-called friends who exploit us and walk all over us.  We need to learn to stick up for ourselves without hurting others in the process.

But, as author Brian Fong points out in his article printed below, a friendship quiz can teach us a lot if we actually think about the questions that are being asked.

If you’re genuinely concerned about being a good friend, it’s good to remember the famous Golden Rule:  treat other people the way that you yourself would like to be treated.

( The introductory comments which appear above are by Royane Real )

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Feature article

Can You Become a Better Friend After Taking a Friendship Quiz?

By Brian Fong

Q. Does a friendship quiz really work?

A. That depends upon what results you are seeking from a friendship quiz. If you are seeking to learn how to become a better friend, then the real results are found more in understanding the lessons that are hidden in the question rather than trying to pick the right answer. In fact, if the friendship quiz is well designed, the answer to each question will be very apparent without even having to guess.

There are certain well-defined traits that make a person a good friend, and there are other "variable" issues that get thrown into the mix.

Some of the well-defined traits include loyalty, honesty, the ability to listen, and the ability to understand your friend's feelings. A friendship quiz should give you a way to measure whether or not you have those traits.

These kinds of well-defined traits are easy to work into a friendship quiz. What's not so easy are the "variable" traits that I mentioned. For example, knowing when to "butt out" of your friend's business is a trait that no friendship quiz can measure.

Likewise, knowing when to say "No" to a friend's request is another vague concept that no friendship quiz is likely to be able to quantify.

The real issue is: Do you actually need to take a friendship quiz to figure out if you are a good friend? Maybe yes, maybe no. If you think of the friendship quiz as a "checklist", then you can run down that checklist to see if you seem to be meeting the basic requirements.

However, if you "fail" the friendship quiz that doesn't mean that you aren't a good friend. A friendship quiz, like any quiz, has a built-in bias since it measures what the quiz's author thinks are valuable traits of friendship. The author may be all wrong in that the friendship quiz may measure things that aren't important to you and your friends.

My advice is to consider a friendship quiz as an "entertainment only" device and not something that will cause you to become a hermit if you don't score 100%.

The best friendship quiz is one that only your head and your heart knows the answers to. Treat your friends like you would want to be treated and you won't need a friendship quiz to keep score.

Article Source: http://www.articleset.com

Brian Fong runs the popular quiz site http://www.QuizFaq.com Quiz Faq - Your solutions for the quiz. » Read more articles by Brian Fong 

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