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Falling For A Friend Is Nothing Out Of The Ordinary
Introductory comments by Royane Real
Have you ever fallen in love with someone that was your friend? As the article below states, falling for a friend is ery common.
What happens when you are friends with someone but you realize that you want something more than just a friendship? How do you deal with the issue? Should you just keep quiet about your feelings? Is it possible that the other person has the same heightened feelings for you?
A big danger is that one person may reveal that he or she has strong romantic feelings, but the other person has no such desire. To reveal yourself so completely is terrifying. However, if you discover that the other person does not share your desire for a closer, more romantic relationship, the disclosure can be humiliating and devastating. The friendship will never again be the same. It may in fact, be so damaged that it will be destroyed.
That is the danger of revealing that you are falling in love with a close friend. But there is also the possibility of getting a tremendous reward if it turns out that both people feel the same way. You may end up with a wonderful romantic relationship built on a close bond of knowing each other very well.
Is the risk of revealing your true feelings worth it?
There is a tremendous payoff that is possible if it turns out that your friend has the same feelings for you. It is possible that your entire so-called friendship has simply been a slow motion courtship where you get to know each other and very slowly reveal your true feelings.
Many people, faced with this situation decide to approach the subject gradually. This way they face less rejection than if they suddenly blurt out their feelings.
The following article by the Datehow staff deals with exactly this dilemma.
Many successful romantic relationships and even marriages have developed as a result of two people who started out as being simply friends. If you find yourself in such a situation, you may decide that even if you have to sacrifice the friendship, you just have to find out whether the other person has similar feelings to you.
The above introductory comments were written by Royane Real
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Falling For A Friend Is Nothing Out Of The Ordinary
Falling for a friend is nothing out of the ordinary. Falling for a friend can happen quite often, especially between two people that share a lot of things in common with each other.
Friends usually spend a lot of time together. Friends often do the same things together. Commonality is the main reason people become friends. However there are times when too much familiarity can be mistaken for something more.
This type of situation happens mainly between friends of different gender. Kindness and friendly affection can easily be confused with feelings of love. Quite often, women are the ones that fall prey to this attraction. However many men have also been in the same situation.
Gestures that would normally mean nothing are misconstrued as something more than it is. A lot of people get mixed signals about friendships with the opposite sex. Situations like these are normal but it is up to the individual to figure how he or she will handle it.
Falling for a Friend - Is it Mutual?
Is it mutual? People that end up falling for a friend should consider if the feeling is in fact mutual. Unfortunately most friendships are just friendships. Falling for a friend can one way or another complicate the friendship.
All people value friendship, especially with the opposite sex, since many find it hard to maintain a platonic relationship with the other sex. Because of this, they have a tendency to avoid situations wherein falling for a friend would virtually end the friendship.
In general, many men and women are true and dedicated friends. However there are some men and women who cannot resist their attraction to the opposite sex. Many romantics often fall victim to this situation and end up spoiling any chance of a successful relationship with the opposite sex.
How to Handle the Situation of Falling For a Friend
Once a person has established that he or she has indeed fallen for his or her friend, it is necessary to figure out the next move. The next move is crucial to the survival of the friendship. A person that has fallen in love with a friend can either take advantage of the situation or let the feeling pass.
Most of the time, a loyal friend would merely let the sentiment pass. Taking into account all the reasons why falling for a friend would be detrimental to the friendship. This is possibly because most romantic relationships never last whereas nearly all friendships last a lifetime.
A lot of people also let the feeling pass for fear of embarrassment. Especially if the feeling is not mutual, which is often the case when falling for a friend. Unfortunately this can also cause a person extreme anxiety that can also strain the friendship.
On the other hand there are some people who are willing to risk the friendship in the name of love. These individuals take the chance of freely expressing their feelings for a friend. However the person must also be ready to face the possibility that the feeling would not be reciprocated.
This makes the situation more complex as getting back into the friendship after a public declaration of affection can also strain the relationship. In most cases, both parties start to feel awkward in each other's company. One feels guilty for expressing their emotion while the other feels guilty for being unable to return the affection.
However if both parties genuinely share the feeling, then it would certainly be a match made in heaven for both parties. This means that the relationship has the opportunity of blossoming into a legitimate and possibly lasting relationship.
It would still require a lot of hard work and commitment from both parties involved. But keep in mind that this is a once in a lifetime opportunity that may or may not happen.
Falling for a friend is a tough situation for any man or woman to face. The risk of losing the friendship is imminent and even more painful for the aggrieved party. On the other hand falling for a friend can bring about a beautiful future between two people that genuinely care for one another provided both are willing to work at it.
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