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Shyness Cure Secrets
By Peter Murphy
Introductory comments by Royane Real
If you suffer from a severe case of shyness, you’ve probably desperately wondered if there was a cure for your condition. Is there some kind of a pill that could make your shyness go away?
Actually, in some cases, certain medications have been found to be useful for social phobia which is often confused with shyness. However, a lot of psychologists disagree with the idea of using this class of drugs to treat shyness. No one knows yet the long term effects of using medication such as SSRI drugs (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors).
So, if you don’t want to use drugs to treat shyness, what other options are there?
Many specialists in the treatment of shyness have had great success using methods such as desensitization therapy. Shyness is not identical with social anxiety or social phobia, although many people use these terms interchangeably.
In many cases, when a shy person is frequently and systematically exposed to the situation that causes him to feel anxious, eventually his nervous system will become used to the situation and will no longer produce such overwhelming negative sensations.
You can learn a little bit more about how desensitization therapy is used in the following article.
Then you can decide whether using desensitization might work for you.
The author Peter Murphy has provided information in the feature article below about the topic of social phobia which is often confused with shyness.
Introductory comments written by Royane Real - author of: “How to Overcome Your Shyness and Your Fear of Rejection and Have the Friends and Lovers You've Always Wanted”
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Feature article
Shyness Cure Secrets
By: Peter Murphy
There are drugs available in the market that offer a shyness cure or social anxiety, or social phobia relief. But some experts do not offer medication but a systematic way of dealing with things with much more courage and positive thinking than you normally have.
Shyness is not a disease that requires a drug or a pill to cure it. It is not even a character defect that must be defect that needs some repairing. Trying to cope with shyness will need positive thinking.
Some people say that shy people should immediately mingle with groups of people to overcome their fear of social anxiety. This means exposing yourself in situations that you have feared your whole life. Doing this might produce complications in your psychological fear.
Social anxiety can be a big hindrance and leads to discomfort in children, or even in adults.
Treating social phobia must be gradual or rely on Systematic Desensitization. This means being exposed to your fear, little by little, and conquering it step by step. This system involves the discovery of your fear, and breaking that fear by doing activities one step at a time. This will gradually move you to an easier step, and later to the most difficult.
Listing down situations which cause your shyness or social anxiety is the first step in applying Systematic Desensitization. This list must be arranged from the less difficult on to the most difficult. In that way, you may be able to triumph over your fear little by little. It will give you a better chance of moving towards a solution to your deeper social anxiety. A simple list or an outline may give you a bigger help to progress on social anxiety.
Give yourself a couple of weeks to deal with each situation in your list. Make a deliberate point everyday of getting into a situation in which you may practice a skill in your list. Trying to practice a particular skill that you have little by little everyday in a couple of weeks - this may lead you to the next step on your list and so on.
Though this technique does not work perfectly every time, since life does not place everyone in the same situation and experiences, this technique might still help you out some other time.
Here is another tip: no matter if a situation might seem difficult and more challenging, try to increase the time you have been spending in that particular situation. Increasing the difficulty means requiring more effort for you to overcome social anxiety. Try to challenge yourself and be braver. This may allow you to achieve a very smooth Systematic Desensitization.
Another shyness cure: try practicing your communication skill with your everyday store clerks who are always ready to put up a good conversation. This will help you out in almost any daily activity like buying candy, a magazine, or anything you might pick up. Making conversation does not necessarily mean it has to be a long one. You can always end up having a conversation whenever you like.
Another advantage is, you do not have to see these people again immediately, and there is no reason for you to be upset if you have said anything might be dull. Just do not try this out if there is a long line of other shoppers waiting behind you.
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Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to Developing Communication Confidence. Apply now because it is available only at: conversation starters
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Some concluding comments about this article
By Royane Real
Have you decided yet whether you should try using medication to treat your shyness, or whether you should try desensitization?
If you decide that your case of shyness is quite serious, be sure to consult a professional who has successfully treated others with your condition.
Therapists who combine medication with behavioral therapy or cognitive therapy and desensitization techniques often have high rates of success.
If you think your case of shyness is not severe enough to require therapy, you can learn a lot of positive ways to cope with your social anxiety from my new special report “How to Overcome Your Shyness and Your Fear of Rejection and Have the Friends and Lovers You've Always Wanted” which is available at http://www.lulu.com/real
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