Royane Real
Quick Ways to Improve Your Small Talk Conversation Skills
By Royane Real
Author of “Your Guide to Making Friendly Conversation”
Many people feel that they hate making small talk. They hate small talk because they feel it is a waste of time, or they may feel they are not really very good at it.
The truth is, making small talk is a conversational skill that all of us should try to improve and develop. Instead of running away from small talk opportunities, we should be running towards them.
Why should you bother trying to make small talk more often?
Making small talk is an important part of getting to know other people better. The old saying, “practice makes perfect” applies here. The more often you practice chatting with people you don’t know very well, the more your conversation skills will improve. You will also get to know more people and improve your self confidence.
Sure, the idle conversation you have today with a neighbor at the bus stop may never turn into anything more. But the fact that you made an attempt to talk to somebody for five minutes about inconsequential things means that you have added a bit more experience to your history. You have gotten to know one person a little bit better.
Welcome every small talk opportunity as a chance to develop a skill you don’t have yet.
If you become better at making conversation with others, you may not see a pay-off this week. The payoff for being more sociable may not come to you this month or this year. But sometime in the future, the fact that you have more experience in talking to many different kinds of people in many different kinds of circumstances will pay off for you.
Your life will improve when your small talk improves, because you will have the possibility of more relationships, better relationships, better career opportunities, and you will feel more self confidence.
When you start off making small talk, you don't need to worry about being witty or profound. It's all right to start off with small pleasantries about inconsequential things, as long as you look for other topics to start exploring that may be of interest to your conversation partner.
Keep listening for comments from your small talk partner about what really interests and excites them. You can then use these new comments to make your conversation deeper and more interesting. Feel free to share a few of your interests as well. It's possible the other person enjoys some of the same things that you do.
If the other person doesn't react or respond to a topic you have offered, look for another subject that may get the conversation going.
The more often you practice these important conversation skills, the less intimidating it will be in the future when you have to talk to someone new. Having more conversations with more people will increase the opportunities you have in your life for more social contacts, more relationships, and even better career opportunities. You never know who the next person you talk with will turn out to be!
Would your life be better if you could make conversation easily with other people?
If the answer is yes, the good news is that you really can improve your conversational skills. It will take practice and commitment to make your conversations better, but when your conversation skills improve, it can open up a whole new world of social opportunities for you.
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