By Royane Real

Author of Your Guide to Making Friendly Conversation  

When you were growing up, it’s not likely that anyone ever sat you down and explained the rules about making small talk to you.  

In most cases, the rules about making small talk are something you are just expected to pick up on the street as you grow up. Some of us master the art of making small talk conversation very easily.  The rest of us struggle to fill up conversations with the sort of chit chat that small talk requires.  Our mind goes blank. We don't know what to say.  We feel foolish.

If you have trouble knowing how to make small talk, I know how you feel.  I wasn’t born knowing how to make small talk easily. 

In fact, making conversation with others was extremely difficult for me.  I was very shy, very quiet, and had no self confidence, and terrible self esteem.  I was lonely a lot.  I was very jealous of people who were able to talk a lot.

Eventually I decided I had to get better at making friends, and get better at making conversation.  I spent many years trying to overcome my problems, and eventually I learned so much about improving conversation skills that I decided to write a special report to show others how they could improve their conversation performance.   

Well, here’s a secret fact I have discovered about those people who make small talk easily:  their main secret is that they are not paying too much attention to what they are doing. 

They are not agonizing over what they say.  They are not worried about what the other person is thinking about them.   That is why it’s so easy for them to make all sorts of comments and questions about a whole host of different topics.  

This is very different from the torment that goes on in the mind of a shy person, or a person who suffers from low self esteem.

A person who is very shy or has low self esteem is constantly worried about being judged by others.  These people constantly judge themselves, very harshly.  They agonize over every little thing they say, and they rarely relax enough to truly enjoy a conversation with another person.

How can you improve your small talk performance if you suffer from being shy or tongue-tied?  Instead of worrying about what you are going to say and worrying whether or not the other person approves of you, you have to give your mind some different instructions.

Tell yourself that you’re just here to practice today.  Tell yourself you have permission to be foolish.  Give yourself permission to make mistakes.

Use your small talk time to look for common ground with the person you are with.  Do you have anything in common?

Do you want to get to know them better?  Do you want them to get to know you better? 

Small talk can be a time waster or a time filler, but it can also be fun, and it’s a way to try find those people you enjoy and want to know better.

Don’t tell yourself you have to succeed at every small talk conversation.  That puts too much pressure on you.

Remember that the huge majority of small talk conversations that take place each day are quickly forgotten.  It doesn’t matter if you make a mistake.  It doesn’t matter that you were a bit nervous.

What’s more important is to let yourself experiment and practice.  Be supportive of yourself while you try to master this conversational skill.

This article was written by Royane Real, author of “Your Guide to Making Friendly Conversation"

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