By Vincent Ng 

I just finished teaching my last class for this term's course at the Vancouver School Board. And am looking forward to the next term to teach my course, Art of Conversation.

Anyway, some people ask me how to start conversations, and a lot of people ask how do you transition from one topic to another, but mostly it seems like people get discouraged from pushing their conversation forward.

Starting a conversation is never easy, it's rather difficult, and then trying to continue the conversation after the first minute is hard too.

But what I've found is that people can be really hesitant at first to talk to you (especially under situations like the grocery market, book store and so forth), and so sometimes the best thing to do is to continue the conversation even if you are uncomfortable.

Your feet may want to walk away, but you have to keep your feet planted. Mentally you have to be in the uncomfort zone. I find that 90 percent of people will never talk to a random stranger on the street...and then what ends up happening is that even fewer will push beyond the first minute of talking. It's just too much pressure.

One of the rules that I've found happen when talking to strangers in places is to push to the three minute mark.

What I call the three minute rule, allow yourself to ask questions about the other person, but remember to share something about yourself as well. Push the conversation until it hits three minutes, and you'll find that many people will feel much more comfortable talking to you.

They just need to let their nerves settle down a little bit before they get involved in the conversation.

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Vincent Ng is a conversation coach. He has taught conversation courses to hundreds of people on how to be more charismatic in social and professional environments. He is the author of the book, Art of Conversation: From Small Talk to Deep Conversations, you can visit his website http://www.conversationarts.com 

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